Tuesday, April 06, 2010

Sawdust & Planks

In the last several weeks, I've desperately wanted to "help" some of my friends.

I've wanted to pull them out of the obvious denial they're living in. I've wanted to give them every example of why they indeed are ___________ when they work so hard to convince themselves and everyone else that they're not.

I've wanted to show a couple of them what control freaks lovers they are, and how enslaving that life can be.

I've wanted to point out how much they're striving when Jesus has asked us to lay that down.

I've wanted to call them out on their need for validation.

In short, I've wanted to point a finger at them. 

But I can't. 

Because I realize that the saying is true: When you point a finger there are three more pointing back at you.

And those three fingers point to a striving control freak who craves validation and is in some pretty deep denial. 

[Sawdust and planks.] 

I'm in need of grace and forgiveness. 

In order for me to offer that to others, I have to recognize my own need for it and receive it for myself first. You can't give something you don't have.

And so I find myself thankful (again) this morning for Easter. For what Jesus did for you and me. For what He offers us.

I'll take a double serving, please. [smile]


lisa@littlesliceoflife said...

Good reminder, Mer.

OhioFamOf4 said...

I've actually thought for the longest time that I can't stand when people don't go along with the plan or screw up what's supposed to be going on and it finally occurred to me a few weeks ago that maybe I have a serious inability to be flexible.

The older I get I find being an only child has not been really beneficial to me. :-)

dawn said...

it's so much easier to see it in others, huh?

a double serving of what Jesus offers...yes please!

Brenda said...

That was beautiful and soooo true, Mer.
Those three fingers pointing back at me are such an awesome reminder of my own need for the Savior!

Amber said...

Sawdust and planks.

Excellent reminder. Unfortunately I'm all too familiar with plankage.

Anonymous said...

Isn't is amazing that God can use our concerns for others to show us our own shortcomings. Your maturity in recognizing your need is to be commended.

Gretchen said...

My eye makes a sucking noise each time I pull out another plank/log.

Don't know whether to thank you for this post or not, so I'll err on the side of good manners.

Thank you, Mer (God.).

Anonymous said...

But as your friend, I hope you wouldn't hesitate (if you felt God urging you) to speak the truth in love if you saw something in my life that I was too self-absorbed to say. In an iron-sharpening-iron kind of way.

But I know what you were saying and I appreciate your humility and sensitivity to your own stuff.

Gina said...

Hold still, you got a little schmootz in your eye... What do you mean I keep smaking you in the head... Hold still, I said!

Thanks for the reminder.