Those four emails are overwhelming me right now. I'm not afraid of commitment, but I am afraid of losing myself in activity. Been there, done that, and hated every minute of it.
I took some time Sunday afternoon to jot down some thoughts that should probably become a permanent set of questions to ask myself before I commit to anything. Feel free to add to my list. Or to disagree with me.
1. Does saying yes to this make me happy? Bring me joy?
2. Or does it cause me to feel stress? Why?
3. Does it cause me to feel guilt? I decided a couple of years ago that I was not going to let guilt be a motivator in decisions I make. The end result is never a good one when I follow guilt's lead.
4. Do I genuinely want to invest in this project? In these people?
5. Is it the right thing to do? Is there benefit/reward in pushing through hard things simply because it's the right thing?
6. Does this commitment reflect my priorities? Does it add to or detract from them?
7. Is saying yes realistic? Do I have the time? The energy? The resolve to see it through to the end?
8. Does saying yes leave room for spontaneity? That might sound selfish but days that are full of commitments leave little room for play. And play is important. For all of us.
9. What do I sense God is asking me to do?
10. What does my family think about me saying yes? Or no?
Honestly, some decisions are bigger than others but I think this is a good place (for me) to start.
A couple additional thoughts:
Just because I'm good at something doesn't necessarily mean I'm called to do it.
Just because I'm good at something doesn't necessarily mean I always enjoy it.
Let your yes be yes, and your no be no. I get into big trouble when I utter the word "maybe".
I'd love to know if you have questions you ask yourself before you commit to things or what your decision making process looks like. Seriously!